“I feel deceived. Angry. No one wants the truth. They’re just interested in a story, any story but not the facts,” explains Rabya Khan. “I’ve been fighting for over seven years. It’s exhausting.” Rabya is a mother who has single-handedly taken on the police and Indian criminal justice system. She exudes love, strength, and determination. […]
Links To Other Articles by Katja
A list of recent articles published in Still Standing Magazine, can be found below: Making Evil Banal: Here’s Why We Should Boycott ‘Joker’ — October 1st, 2019 ‘People Do Care’: A Doctor Speaks On The National Day Of Remembrance For Murder Victims — September 25th, 2019 A Conflict Of Interests: An Open Letter To […]
Releasing Emotions Without Fear Of Judgement
When tragedy strikes most of us don’t know how to release our emotions naturally and safely. Instead, we tend to bottle them up. Afraid of being judged by others we hide the agony of our loss. Quite possibly, we’ll scream when no one hears or sob uncontrollably in the car. I know I did and […]
As Shock Subsides You May Dare Ask, What Now?
Shock is the body’s response to child loss. It shields you temporarily from the enormity of what has happened. It may last only a matter of hours or perhaps several months. Yet at some point, the shock will subside and like a raging tide sucked back out to the sea it’ll reveal the corroded horror […]
The Reflection In The Mirror
I recently read an article by a child-loss mother who wrote of how she no longer recognized herself in the mirror. Her achingly beautiful words stopped me in my tracks, and I was transported back to the days of early grief when the agony of losing my son was so great that it felt as […]
The Dos And Don’ts Of Talking To Homicide-Loss Parents
Most people don’t know how to speak to a homicide-loss parent. They’re lost for words. I get that — homicide is very frightening. So, here’s a list of dos and don’ts to remember: 1. Call the murder victim by their name. Homicide loss survivors are no different from other child loss parents or siblings — […]